Read Dr Jen Gunter!

Read her blog! Her take downs of Gwyneth Paltrow’s GOOP shit are legendary (see her dismantle jade eggs).

She just published a piece on women’s sexuality and the neglect thereof in the New York Times:

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It’s enraging that faking orgasms to satisfy a man’s sexual script has not been confined to the trash heap of bad history. Studies tell us that up to 67 percent of women who have experienced penile-vaginal intercourse have faked orgasms. All for reasons painfully familiar to me: not wanting to hurt my male partner’s feelings, knowing I won’t be listened to, feeding his ego or simply wanting the sex to end.

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We rarely talk openly about what’s required for a woman to have a good sexual experience, and so many heterosexual women learn the mechanics of sex and female orgasms from movies (most of which are written, directed and produced by … men). What I like to call the three-strokes-of-penetration-bite-your-lip-arch-the-back-and-moan routine.

Back in college, I read Zoe’s copy of Women’s Experience of Sex as well as Our Bodies, Ourselves. These were enormously useful counterbalances to the inaccuracies of hearsay and film/literature based information and the detached clinically of health class. Having medically accident yet experientially grounded information about sex is really important to, well, not being, at best, a doofus. Don’t be Dan from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend!

https://youtu.be/ZlHf1Fc0OSg

(Not that orgasms are everything! But fake orgasms, esp secret fake orgasms, are not typically part of mutually respectful and engaged sex.)